Has Controversial Matchmaking Site 'Every Girl Needs a Gay' Been Hacked?

Monday November 16, 2015

"WTF was she thinking? A what? For What? Oh hell no."

It appears as though the controversial matchmaking website, EveryGirlNeedsAGay.net, has been hacked.

The website, which is set to launch in January 2016 and is currently in beta version, came under fire last week after a number of publications took issue with the site's purpose: Finding gay best friends for straight women.

When EDGE tried to access the site Monday afternoon, all that appears is a grey screen with a title line that reads, "WTF Was She Thinking? A what? For what? Oh hell no."

Refinery29 and other websites called out Every Girl Needs a Gay with Refinery29 having a problem with the site's citation of new research from the journal "Evolutionary Psychology." Refinery29 writes the site "suggests that what creates a special (read: stereotypical) bond between gay men and straight women is 'their unique ability to provide clear-headed counsel regarding romantic relationships.'"

To start, their interpretation of the study that legitimizes the site's business model is off-base. A visiting researcher and his team at the University of Texas at Austin supposedly wrote, "Our results suggest that straight women and gay men perceive mating advice provided by each other to be more trustworthy than similar advice offered by other individuals."

That means a small sample of subjects believe that sexuality stereotype validates their friendships, not that it's true or would be a good way to view women or gay men; as it is, something about the bogus term "fag hag" reflects poorly on both parties. Do we really need to enable this narrow-minded view of us?

Besides its premise being wack, it's irrelevant. The limitations of such a binary on sexuality and gender labels have no positive connection with the success rate of platonic friendships. And anyway, do we really need a paid service this specific? (Yep, there's a pay model.)

Paper Mag wrote of the site, "because who doesn't love their friendships to be tokenized, surface-level sort of situations?"

The founder of Every Girl Needs a Gay recently spoke with Mic.com. Though she refused to be identified (Paper Mag reports her name is Gini Garbick, a Boston-based web designer who is listed as the site's founder) she seems to be sincere in her efforts to launch a "shopping buddies" and "confidantes" matchmaking site. She told Mic she was inspired to create the site after leaving her home in Michigan in 2007 and leaving her gay best friend behind.

"These relationships are sacred," she said. "They bring out our best selves, and once those selves are tapped and brought to the surface ... they are then celebrated by the very person who helped unearth them. I was lost without 'my gay.' "

She later added:

"If the idea is a big fat goose egg ... please tell me. I have no ego," she said. "I'm older than the bloggers and tweeters and maybe have missed the evolution that has taken place between my day and this great new day where there is a broader acceptance of ...everyone but a middle aged woman who was just looking for her Boston Gay."

Just for good measure, here is the site's "About" section:

Every Girl Needs a Gay is the first friend finder of its kind. We are an online matchmaking service for those seeking their GBF.

We have developed an algorithm system designed to match profiles that will result in bringing together those most compatible.

The rest is up to you, to take the next step -- to reach out and introduce yourself and see if there is that connection.

It really is that simple.

Whether looking for an online friendship or a "fun fling"...an occasional companion or a long-term relationship -- we are here to help you connect with some amazing friends.