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Man Arrested for Refusing to Leave Partner in Hospital

by Jason St. Amand
National News Editor
Friday Apr 12, 2013

A man was arrested and slapped with a restraining order on Wednesday after refusing to leave the hospital bedside of his sick partner, Kansas City, Mo., Fox-affiliated station WDAF reports.

Roger Gorley went to visit his longtime partner, Allen, at Research Medical Center in Kansas City, Mo., on Tuesday. When Gorley got to the hospital, however, one of Allen's family members told him to leave. After Gorley refused, he says the hospital security physically removed him from the property and had him arrested. After the hospital filed a restraining order against him, he cannot visit his partner at all.

"I was not recognized as being the husband, I wasn't recognized as being the partner," Gorley told WDAF. He added that the nurse on duty would not verify that he and Allen have joint Power of Attorney status. "She didn't even bother to go look it up to check into it. He's been at the psychiatric unit part several times."

"We believe involving the family is an important part of the patient care process," the hospital said in a statement. "The patient's needs are always our first priority. When anyone becomes disruptive to providing the necessary patient care, we involve our security team to help calm the situation and to protect our patients and staff. If the situation continues to escalate, we have no choice but to request police assistance."

Gorley said he and Allen have been in a civil union for five years and make joint medical decisions. Missouri, however, does not recognize civil unions.

In 2010 President Barack Obama ordered hospitals that receive Medicare or Medicaid to allow visitation rights for same-sex couples. Even so, incidents such as Gorley's continue to occur in jurisdictions that do not recognize LGBT couples.


  • Oh Jed said:, 2013-04-12 12:03:04

    Missouri...the show me lots of ignorant assholes state.

  • WayGay, 2013-04-12 16:53:35

    This is tragic. What this man needs to do is call in every media outlet he can find; file a lawsuit; and the sue the shit out of the hospital and his partner’s family.

  • gdhamf, 2013-04-13 00:00:36

    Lawyer up and ride in take names and kick butt!

  • BlondieSL, 2013-04-14 07:18:04

    This makes me SOOOO ANGRY!!! It’s 2013, not the dark ages! Perhaps they failed in their "Research" efforts to discover that a Gay family IS a family!!! and a Sick family member NEEDS and WANTS their partners with them. To have some dumb-ass nurse refuse to look up LEGAL DOCUMENTS, puts this facility into legal peril. Perhaps everyone should start to call that damned place and show them that WE KNOW WHAT THEY’RE DOING and it’s NOT going to be accepted! 2316 E Meyer Blvd, Kansas City, MO 64132, United States +1 816-276-4000 Chief Executive Officer (816) 276-4101 Oh and read this: Their statement says, "As a recipient of Federal financial assistance, this HCA Midwest Health System hospital does not exclude, deny benefits to or otherwise discriminate against any person on the ground of race, color, or national origin, or on the basis of disability or age" Notice the lack of Sexual Orientation. THIS PLACE NEEDS TO LOSE IT’S FEDERAL FUNDING!

  • Wayne M., 2013-04-15 20:48:58

    This incident points out why family and marriage equality are very important goals. Had Robert Gorley’s partner been a woman or if Mr. Gorley had been a woman visiting a male partner, this would never have happened. Right now, by denying visitation rights to his partner, the hospital is actually impeding Allen’s care and chances of returning to good health.

  • Bram, 2013-04-16 15:50:57

    I find stories like this to be the most offensive. I hope he sues the $h!t out of the hospital and the family.

  • , 2013-04-17 01:20:59

    The only rational comment is from gdhamf above. This guy did himself no favors by creating a scene and didn’t get to see his partner anyway. There’s more to this story that they aren’t saying though. It’s a shame that we get bad examples to show our plight.

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